Monday, 3 September 2012

Marriage - does it change you?

We haven't written here for a while; L is busy with work, and S is busy with work, her counselling course, and looking into volunteer placements! September will bring us a surprise party for a close family friend of L's and our anniversary which we will be spending in London - so excited! We both have a much needed fortnight of annual leave to look forward to, during which we will be spending time catching up with our friends Laura and Sarah, and then we have our friends Megan and Whitney's civil partnership to finish off the month.

We also have lots of exciting adventures in October too, with my birthday, L's brothers birthday, our engagement shoot with our wedding photographer, a trip to a big wedding fair with our mums, giving notice of our civil partnership, and my dads 60th - which happens to be on the day of one of our much loved holidays, Halloween!
Just some of our MANY Halloween decorations last year!

We are also aiming to start wedding dress shopping in October! And after October's done, it will be less than 2 months to Christmas, and 8 months until our wedding - where does the time go?! Does anyone else feel like 2012 has been the quickest yet?!

As we get closer to the end of the year, lots of events that will be 'our last as Miss & Miss' keep popping up. This September our 8 year anniversary will be our last one as girlfriends rather than wives, my 28th birthday in October will be my last as an unmarried lady,  L's 27th in April will be her last birthday as Miss and Christmas next year will be our first as a married couple!
Christmas 2011

I think I speak for both of us when I say I can't wait to be married. People joke about the fact our wedding day is on American Independence Day (This obviously has no significance to us as Brits, and was simply the first date in July available at our venue, and was cheaper as it is a Thursday!) and how simultaneously we will lose our independence and become 'old marrieds'. This couldn't be further from how we see it! Essentially, we are together because we choose to be, and our lives are exactly as we would want them - nothing will change when we are married, including losing any 'independence'!

After 8yrs we have been through a lot together - university, jobs, moving out, moving cities, family deaths and the deaths of our childhood pets, buying our first house, dealing with attention from other people, bringing up our puppy, and getting engaged. I always say every bad thing that happens will become another thing you know how to deal with, and the good things were amazing just because we were together for them. I know we will have lots more to come, good and hopefully only a tiny bit of bad, but our relationship is one of the strongest I know, and I'm proud of that.

I feel very lucky to have the life we do - we are both very content just being together, with our puppy, in our house. We love seeing good friends (quality over quantity is definitely something I've learned about friendships!) and family in our spare time, but as cliche as it sounds, what, and who, we have in our lives right now, is all we need and want! I feel we have 'grown up' a lot in the past couple of years, and consequently have found out who we are and what we want from life. This will evolve and change with more years behind us and fewer in front, but realising that we want the same futures and have the same goals, and understanding who we are and how to get where we want to be could be considered as the 'next step' in our lives. I think reaching this point is conducive to a good marriage, but it is more than coincidence that we are getting married at the same time we both felt this way!

So with that in mind, what will married life bring us?
I think our marriage is something that signifies this new phase in our lives, although we are at least a year into said phase! Other people we've asked have said they didn't feel much different when they more married, just that is a lovely feeling that your relationship is 'official'! When we got engaged we both felt this huge sense of permanence, commitment and responsibility - like we had committed to each other forever, now, and therefore we must do everything we could to make sure the other was safe, happy and settled. I can't wait to be L's wife, to see how through our marriage we are able to explore life, and together we can explore the world! I can't wait to add little ones to our marriage, and turn us into a family. I wonder if we will feel any different, but I honestly can't wait to find out!

Soon to be Mrs & Mrs - we can't wait!


  1. This post is so beautiful! You write so wonderfully about your relationship, and we agree, you are the strongest couple we know! We even got a little nervous thinking about your last single events- its so soon!!! Can't wait to see your beautiful wedding!! L&Sxo

  2. Thankyou for the lovely comment ladies :) xx

  3. We are so excited for you lovely ladies to go wedding dress shopping! Beautiful post... love your write-up on "What will married life bring for us?" Absolutely beautiful.

    1. Thankyou :) Can't wait to see pictures from your wedding, it's so close now!
      S xx


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