It is interesting that we wrote at the beginning of our blog that we very much wanted a marriage, and strongly believed that if we were given this opportunity, we would embrace it, as we wanted to be as equal as every one of our friends and family who could get married. Perhaps it took until our own wedding day to realise that in actual fact what we have IS equality, our friends and family refer to us as nothing but being married, we have always, and will always, refer to our wedding day as our wedding day, and we are very much married in every sense of the word. What we now realise is that we don't need to have the word marriage on our certificate to make our day any more incredible, or make our relationship any more valid. We didn't plan our wedding day as a practise run, or think of it as a prequel to another wedding day - we planned it as our dream wedding day, the best day of our lives, and it exceeded all of our expectations.
We feel that another day would be detracting from our original wedding day, and whilst others may feel that a same sex marriage is 'real' or 'legal' we would argue that ours is both of these. Looking in to the wording of the two ceremonies, they are almost identical bar a few words, and what you get at the end of it is exactly the same - a legal certificate meaning you have bound your love in law, and will work to love, make each other happy, and be together, for the rest of your lives. Having promised all of these things, and signed the legal document that confirms we are now Mrs & Mrs, which also happened to be on the day of our dreams, we don't feel the need to do any of this again. Interestingly, it seems from what we have read that those who have had a civil partnership are not permitted to have a second ceremony; one paper likened it to a planning permission application - you turn up, sign the paper, pay the money and off you go. We will do this, however, if it becomes apparent that there are any legal benefits to us being married, but so far it seems to be that a civil partnership and civil marriage are absolutely identical.
The way we can best describe our feelings is that... imagine for a moment that straight people can only have red M&Ms, and gay people can only have blue ones. We strongly believe that everyone should be able to have whichever colour they want, but we've made our blue one so special that we don't need to swap it for a red one. I have no idea why we chose M&Ms for that analogy but that's the joy of a diary, to fill with whatever thoughts pour from our heads :p
We couldn't have said it better ourselves!