We reached the top of the waiting list a little while ago, and were called to inform us we had been matched to a sperm donor based on our requested characteristics. However, when the nurse looked further into the donor's profile, he had specified that his sperm was not to be used by a same sex couple. Which although we found strange (and I do kind of hope a straight couple use his sperm - and give birth to a gay baby ;) ) we figure if you're donating sperm you can chose who it goes to!
We were then a few weeks later informed we were again at the top of the list, however, the timings would have meant we were going through the most physically difficult part of treatment around Christmas Day week. My job is manic during December and January, and we didn't feel this was the best time to be undergoing a physically difficult and emotional process that is known to work best when you are relaxed and stress free - so we have decided to defer our treatment until spring next year. It also gives us time to save money so we have some for nursery planning aswell as treatment - one of the most popular searches bringing people to our blog is 'free IVF for UK lesbian couples' - unless you have a fertility problem (no, lesbianism doesn't count!) it's not free, and it is expensive!
We were disappointed to have to put off our fertility treatment, but have been enjoying autumn instead.
It has been busy, with us spending weekends away for our 10th anniversary, my 30th, glamping in Wales, and a big family party in Cornwall for Lauren's grandparents 60th wedding anniversary.
However, it has definitely been lots of fun!
We did a food swap with our friends in the USA who sent us an amazing box of pumpkin themed goodies.
Enjoying making lots of autumny meals - the green thing is a variety of cauliflower!
I also made my own vegan peanut butter cups and champagne truffles which turned out amazing!
Halloween week we visited a pumpkin patch! We had great fun picking, and later carving them into a cat (Lauren's) and a moon/stars (mine).
On actual Halloween night my best friend had gotten us tickets to see our favourite comedian Noel Fielding which was a brilliant night! We laughed non stop from start to finish!
But as Lauren and I usually have a Halloween night in, we did this on the day before Halloween instead. Lauren cooked a Halloween themed meal, then we watched two of our favourite Halloween films - Corpse Bride and Hocus Pocus, with pumpkin spice lattes and pumpkin Oreos! Even Willow got into the spirit.
The following day we popped round to my parents for a takeaway as my Dad's birthday is Halloween, and Sunday was spent shopping with Lauren and her mum, then enjoying Sunday lunch cooked by Lauren's dad.
This year has gone so fast! Autumn is our favourite time of year, and although we would have loved to have been expecting a tiny person as we enter the festive period we are happy with our decision to defer our treatment. As we have often said to each other through this process, the one thing we have on our side is the ability to plan when we have treatment / when our little one comes along…and we don't want our last Christmas as the two of us to be spent worrying about whether we have been successful or not. And in the meantime? We have a wonderful, magical life together, so full of love and adventure, so we can just relax and enjoy our favourite time of year together. Complete with a glass of mulled wine or three!